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January 17th, 2009
The End of The Reality Method
It’s time to close up shop here at The Reality Method.
With this post, I’m drawing to a close the personal, private, and public journey which began almost 26 months ago.
Over that period of time, I’ve written 101 articles, totaling almost half a million words. If I had been writing novels instead of a blog, that would amount to roughly five average-length novels in a 2-year period.
I guess I had a lot to say.
I started this blog with two goals in mind: one, to organize my own thoughts on men, women, and the sexual relationship(s) possible between them; and two, to help guys improve their “results” with the women they desired.
I’m closing up shop because I think I’ve fulfilled those goals. After nearly 26 months, I can be reasonably certain that this site has helped at least one or two guys; and that’s good enough for me.
As for my second goal — getting my thoughts down on paper, and sharing them with a wider audience — I think I accomplished that, in spades.
In fact, this blog has been a crucial part of my self-development. The evolution of my thought over that two-year period is clearly reflected in the tone and content in each article. It is plain to me now, however, that where I am now in regards to my thinking on this topic is a very, very long distance from where I started; as a result, over 90% of the articles I have written no longer feel very true or resonant for me — and as a result, I’ve taken those articles down.
I’m sure some will live on in Google’s cache for a while, and on other sites that have “borrowed” my content for traffic purposes (and if you are in charge of one of those sites, I would thank you kindly to take that “borrowed” content down) — but eventually, they will be purged from the Intertubes.
Until then, I would hate to continue hanging what I now consider lower-quality advice out there for guys to stumble across. As much help as I know it has been to guys at a certain level of understanding, I now have what I know to be much higher-quality guidance available, and am very interested in sharing that with interested parties, instead.
For this reason, I have left my “coaching” page up, for anyone else who’d like to take advantage of my relationship coaching practice. In a month or two, though, that offer will also expire.
Writing this blog has been an incredible journey in its own; and a fitting cap to my now four-year exposure to the “seduction” and dating industr(ies). My life and thought have definitely evolved in a slightly different direction; one I look forward to exploring in more depth. Honestly I don’t know if I’ll ever want to stop helping people on a personal, 1-to-1 level; it’s highly rewarding to the ego.
To those who came here looking for advice, you can still check out a few articles I have left published; they are Four Subtle Signs of Sucess What to Do if your Girlfriend is an Addict, and Let Your Game Speak
I’ve left these up because they come closest to reflecting my current mindset, and may still offer the type of value I’m interested in offering now.
To everyone; it’s been a great ride, and I have deeply appreciated all your comments (especially those of you who disagreed with me or challenged my thinking).
Thank you all for reading.
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This entry was posted on Saturday, January 17th, 2009 at 9:49 pm and is filed under reality. You can follow any responses to this entry through the RSS 2.0 feed. You can leave a response, or trackback from your own site. 24 Responses to “The End of The Reality Method” CM Says: January 17th, 2009 at 10:38 pm
Aw man, sorry to see you go… you had some great insights and a great way of explaining things. Albedo Says: January 18th, 2009 at 12:37 am
The info is good - why not leave it up? If it’s a matter of money, you could downgrade to a wordpress.com free blog.
Thanks for a good read! The Ugly One With The Jewels Says: January 18th, 2009 at 2:54 am
thanks for the insight in the last couple of years and good luck to you! Sadhana Says: January 18th, 2009 at 3:27 am
Wow.. And there goes one of the good source for non-creepy advices regarding men and women..
I agree on the wordpress advice. The articles here are far too precious to be taken off of people’s eyes. They balance the shallower, weirder, creepier advices out there.
Hate to see you go, mate. pinaceae Says: January 18th, 2009 at 9:52 am
I’ll second the notion for keeping your articles online. They may not reflect your current views, but represent a journey of thought and can provide value to those searching for understanding.
Anyways, it is your decision.
Thanks for your hard work, I hope you won’t disappear from the Net and start a new adventure somewhere else.
Cheers! Fingertipz Says: January 18th, 2009 at 10:48 am
Too bad you’re leaving, Thirtyplus. I read most of your articles about a year ago; they were very well written and contained a lot of valuable insights. Thanks anyway for posting and I hope your writing talent won’t be completely lost. Doctor No Says: January 18th, 2009 at 10:49 am
Awww what a pity (for the rest of us) that you are leaving. And as Albeda says - what a pity that you chose to take your “legacy” with you as well. Anyway, thanks a ton for your contribution. It has been very valuable! Although I wish I had gotten through more of it before it disappeared… Diamonds Says: January 18th, 2009 at 4:11 pm
I just wanted to thank you for recommending the book “The Relationship Cure” it’s even better than you said it was. I just “found” your blog after listening to your interview on the Pickup Podcast, so I didn’t get a chance to read a lot of your articles,but I wish you all the best, and thanks again! Matt Says: January 18th, 2009 at 6:08 pm
I agree with Albedo, as a regular reader and big fan of your writing I’ve still probably only read about half of this site. There is great information here, I think it would be a shame to lose this resource. A lot of what you wrote is still offering a lot of value just by being available on the internet.
Of course I understand the urge to distance yourself from your earlier writings, especially when they reflect a worldview that you no longer see from. I’ve taken down most of my past blogs and it is something only an author can understand.
Either way, thank you. You’ve blogged about the seduction community and the issues guys face in a way that raised the bar philosophically and intellectually. While many seduction authors wax philosophical on evolutionary biology your perspective always left room for the human elements of life and love and even, God forbid we say it in this community, caring about a woman. I’ve enjoyed everything I’ve read on this site and your voice will certainly be missed among the community.
Best of luck in your next project. rap Says: January 18th, 2009 at 8:23 pm
thank you for what you’ve done, just know you made a difference in at least one person’s Life. Chris Says: January 18th, 2009 at 11:35 pm
Thirtyplus - Sad to see you go. Your posts were always well-written and unique. I looked forward to reading them.
For me, the most memorable thing you’ve written was something to the effect of, “I am beginning to believe that the purpose of relationships — all relationships — is the advancement of one another.” That has stuck with me, and I think it’s a very true statement.
Good luck with your future projects. If you get the time, I would love to read a post about your current thoughts vs. what you formerly believed. JP Says: January 19th, 2009 at 12:44 am
Wow, I think your work is probably the most detailed and clearly explained on the topic of female/male interaction!!
I really would hate to see it go…
Thanks for everything JP Says: January 19th, 2009 at 12:51 am
Also, as far as the articles go….They’re way too precious to be removed.
Is there anyway you can leave them on?
Thanks. Infinity Says: January 19th, 2009 at 1:23 am
I came across this blog only 6 months ago and there has been great information here. You did a good job and I speak for many here when I say that we thank you for what you have contributed.
Sorry to see you go, but I wish you luck in the next stage of your life. Looks like you have the right mindset that is destined for success.
Good luck, buddy. BPFC Says: January 19th, 2009 at 6:26 am
If it weren’t for The Reality Method I probably would have given up long ago. We need more more guys like you who can discuss sex and women with intelligence, candour, and respect - both for the women and the reader. A lot of other writers come off as promoting some bag of leazy tricks you can use on stupid girls to get laid, or some ugly creepy mindset where are only allowed to think of the next woman you meet as a thing to talk into letting your dick in.
You, however, strive in (almost) every article to encourage the reader to better himself in a much more fundamental way. The Zen stuff, the detailed look at mutual value escalation, and every piece of advice throughout the site that showed how to be honest without falling back on one’s old AFC identity habits have all been a huge source of peace of mind for my dealings with women - including now my first girlfriend, ever - since I found this site three months ago.
Along with every other commenter here I urge you to keep the articles up, thirtyplus. If not, thanks for having left them on long enough for me to stumble across them and they will be missed. Damo Says: January 19th, 2009 at 6:33 am
Really sorry to see you go Thirty.
I will definitely miss your archive posts. I personally think they are timeless! I can sort of understand your change in attitude and outlook, but there is still a TON of value there, even if you have yourself outgrown it.
I too would love to hear about your current thoughts vs. older beliefs, if you ever want to get into that.
Thank you for all you have contributed! net nick Says: January 19th, 2009 at 8:08 pm
your site has been a valuable resource to many, and one of the few that seems to have a respectful and grown-up approach to the subject. i’ve learned a lot and am very disappointed i may never have the opportunity to review all your work. please re-consider archiving all your content, even with a disclaimer or addendum. in any case, thanks for all the time and energy; much appreciated. G Says: January 20th, 2009 at 11:33 pm
This was the best resource I could find on this subject. Grown up and rational. I really wish you would allow us access to your older material. El Mandala Says: January 20th, 2009 at 11:43 pm
Jorge Luis Borges use tu say that he was proud not for what he has write but for what has read. And I’m proud of be a reader of your blog.
Maybe I’m the world greatest advertiser of your blog. When you recommend something good, you are someway good as well. Quality recognize quality. :)
I’d like to read the 30 reviews you haven’t posted yet in your bookshelf. At least, I would like to know the titles of the books that you reviewed. Please send it to elmandalamail a gmail com
Hopefuly you are turning to write under your real name or other nick, or to write your ideas in related topics in “real books” or something like that.
Anyway, whatever new path your life take, best wishes to you and thanks for all the light that you spread to this darked manhood. Polybius Says: January 21st, 2009 at 2:27 am
Thirty,
I’d like to add my support to the other comments on this thread. The Reality Method may no longer reflect where you are, but it shows the progression of your journey there. It’s a journey that many men want to take, and many men should take. I only discovered the Reality Method one month ago, but have found it to be more positive, mature, practical and mutually beneficial in outlook than 95% of the dating/pickup material available today.
So if possible, could you please reconsider making the archive available for future use?
In any case, whether the archive is made available or remains off the web, thank you for sharing your journey with all of us. It has been a pleasure. Dave from Hawaii Says: January 21st, 2009 at 9:49 pm
Thirtyplus,
Your article, “What is a Shit Test?” transformed my LIFE.
I don’t see how you can consider that article an embarrassment or not worthy of being online anymore. I printed that posting out and have given it to many of my friends who have had trouble relating to women over the years, and it’s like a light bulb going off over their heads when they encounter a shit-test, and agree and amplify it…and almost can’t believe how it works.
Thanks for what you’ve done…please at least re-consider putting all your articles back online! Albedo Says: January 22nd, 2009 at 4:38 pm
@ Dave from Hawaii
- for real, that was the first one I read, and it alone is a superb nugget of gold worth saving. I recall being in social settings AFTER reading it, and observing my male friends fail and fail and fail shit-tests without even knowing it. john Says: January 23rd, 2009 at 12:29 am
Please PLEASE PLEASE make your old articles available again. I’ll even pay for them. I’m pretty upset that I just started reading this blog recently and probably went through less than a quarter of the articles posted. I’m honestly a pretty pathetic person — I’m 20 and have never had any sort of relationship with a female that wasn’t anything other than a friendship, and really only had one of those. Obviously your blog wasn’t going to be all that I needed, but holy shit was it great for a start. Kingpin Says: January 23rd, 2009 at 6:15 pm
Thirtyplus,
When I first got into pickup and dating advice your work helped me most with my social game and self improvement. Its a real shame that your done here, but I respect where you want to go with your life now. You were a good teacher.
But I do believe that leaving up your past work will leave behind a great source for information and help when they are in need. You gave a lot to me. So I simply ask for one more thing, from student to teacher, leave up your work.
See you around,
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